by Janelle Bull, M.A.
When trying to raise teenagers, it is clear that some talk less, some sass more and some turn into people we hardly recognize! Yet, teens need their parents more than ever.
Teens Need:
- A safe place to fall in order to figure themselves out. They need a parent (or 2) that they can lean on when they feel “lost” or “insecure.”
- Clear boundaries. Teens need to know what is okay to do and what it not. Articulating expectations is a good thing. Teens want to know what is expected of them and what they can expect as a consequence if they step too far out of bounds.
- Trust your teen until or unless they give you a reason not to trust them. Let them be a “teen” – just like you once were!
- A listening ear. Seek to understand – not fix. Ask questions; put yourself in their shoes. Their issues may not seem like a big deal to you, but to them – they are!
- Yes, they don’t smell baby fresh any longer, but they still need to be hugged, kissed and loved!
- Tell them that they have what it takes to make their goals and dreams a reality. We believe what we tell ourselves. Plant the seeds and watch them grow!
- Walk along side your teen when they are making decisions, but stay clear of making the decisions for them. Lead, nurture and support.
- A sense of humor. Laugh with your teen. Teens really connect with their parents through laughing…especially if you can laugh at yourself!
- Show your teens your flaws. You will appear much more human, approachable and easier to connect with.
- A place to be silly! Teens need a place that they can be who they are, without trying to impress anyone!
Be the parent you NEED to be for your child! Not the parent you THINK you should be!
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